I saw one of my neighbors at Costco this evening. I don't know her all that well, but we stopped and chatted for a few minutes. I talked about how relieved I felt to have taken my house off the market and my plans for the upcoming adoption. Her response went something like this, "Wow. Two kids? You're going to be very busy. You work full time and don't have a husband". It felt so good to tell her that, yes, I am very busy, but I wouldn't have it any other way. That's the truth. This is what I want to being doing. I love being a mom. This is what I have longed for since I was a kid. I'm not adding another child to this family because I think it's going to make life easier. I'm adding another baby because I want another child.
I have to admit, the thought process for the second baby has been really interesting. I've had a difficult time getting super excited about it. Up until this point I have known I wanted more than one child and I have had the approximate timing planned out in my mind, but I guess I've been waiting to feel something more. I think part of the difference is that I'm not longing to be a mom like I was with Eliza. I am a mom and I love it, but I'm tired and it's hard sometimes. I now understand, and am living, the reality of motherhood. A switch has seemed to flip in my mind the past week or so. I finally feel that feeling of excitement...like I want to start collecting baby things again or walk down the diaper isle just to imagine a tiny baby, my tiny baby, and what life will be like when the day comes. I don't know exactly when this will all happen, but I feel it getting close and I am excited!
Missed the original post on baby #2? Click here.
(No, I haven't started the paperwork yet, I'm just gearing up.)
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I'm so excited for you!
Okay, dish. I knew you wanted to adopt again but did I miss a post on "the start"? How EXCITING!!! I wish you only the best. Are you going domestic or IA??? I would love to hear more about it!!! Congratulations!!!! Stephe
Oh.. getting close? Now I'M excited!
I know how you feel - we're paper pregnant for our second child, and tho I'm really excited about having another baby, I'm not as anxious or stressed as I was the first time around.
Congrats to you and Eliza again!
Getting excited for the second baby was really hard for me too. We honestly started the adoption so Amelia would have a sibling. Of course we don't feel that way now, but back then it was ALL about Amelia.
I think a lot of us grew up with single parents and saw how really really hard it was. Even though I know it's still impossibly hard (my hat is so off to any single parent), I think going into it as a single parent is a world of difference from having kids and ending up a single parent through divorce or death of a spouse.
You knew you were financially and emotionally ready (as much as any person can) prior to becoming a mother.
Anyway, I'm glad you are getting excited. I can't wait to see a new baby on your blog.
I can so identify with this. I'm also 'gearing up' for number 2 (and potentially 3 at the same time) and have some paperwork/meetings coming up. I also find this time round that I'm thinking less about the actual adoption/who my child will be kind of thing and more about the practicalities of finances and being single.
What are you doing/planning to do to get Eliza accustomed to the idea?
I'm just thrilled as can be for you!
GOod for you...I am sure it is hard working full time and being a single Mom but I have no doubt you have what it takes to be a greta Mom to two!
Tiffany, that's so exciting. I JUST read a comment on my neighbor's facebook page (she just adopted a domestic baby last year) saying her agency has a cc boy that is due in Jan. and needs a home. I'm sure you've researched and know when and where you want to adopt from, but thought I'd send you the link to her page in case you wanted to check it out. Can't wait to hear more about this 2nd baby!
Her name is Sarah Passey Sharp and here is the link:
http://www.facebook.com/reqs.php#/profile.php?id=628986746&ref=nf
"This is what I want to being doing. I love being a mom."
And that is why I like your blog so much :)
Wow exciting! I can't wait to see how it goes. My DD#2 has been derailed a little bit so I'll live through you :)
Yay! Congrats Tiffany and Eliza! When I read the blog I got so excited! I know this comment has like way too many exclamation points, but this is an exclamation blog! Have you started paper work and all that jazz? I am so very happy for you both! You will be awesome Tiffany. I know you have enough love for another child, and you have been the best mom to Eliza. Woo-hoo!
-megan
All I can say- is - you must have two- or three. Anyone who has seen you with Eliza knows that it's meant to be -single or not. Go for it sister! Can't wait to see you with another little one.
Good For YOU Tiff. I know I have told you b4, but you ARE such an example to me of someone with passion for motherhood and you ARE a great mommy!
keep us posted on your decisions and journey.
Excited about your plans to adopt again. I can relate to the feelings too - we have our homestudy in Taiwan (since Aug.) but I'm not as anxious. Probably because I'm so busy with Audrey. I think you do a wonderful job with Eliza. Congrats!
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